Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Make in the Morning Brownies

Mornings can be really stressful times in our house but I often like to try to bake something to take to a friend's house.  

We made these brownies this morning and still managed to get dressed and out of the house by 10am. 



Ingredients:
150g butter
1 1/4 cups of caster sugar
3/4 cup of coco powder
1 teaspoon of vanilla extract
3 eggs
1/2 cup of plain flour
1/2 cup white choc baking bits (optional)

1. Preheat oven to 160 degrees.  Melt sugar, butter and coco over low heat. 

2. Spoon chocolate mixture into a bowl. Add vanilla and eggs and whisk to combine. 

3. Sift flour into mixture and combine with whisk. 

4. Spoon into a baking tray lined with baking paper and cook for 25 to 30 mins or until the centre is just set. Cool in the tin, then cut into squares. 

5. Rush out the door like a crazy person leaving the washing up in the sink. 



Linking up with Essentially Jess today for IBOT 

Also don't forget to enter my giveaway for her book. 

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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Facebook is My Blankie

All three of my girls have had a blankie. A very special blanket or wrap that gives them comfort when they are sad or tired or just want something to play with. There is a very special connection between a child and her blankie. If they have been away from blankie for too long, as soon as it is in sight there is a noticeable reaction (Ali does a nervous giggle when she  sees hers). As soon as that blankie is in their arms all is right with the world again.

The Blankie.


What does this have to do with Facebook you ask? Well, I was listening to another Focus on the Family podcast recently and the speaker made a comment that rang true with me. It was said that many people (mums in particular) as using Facebook as a self soother. Like my little girls who reach for their blankets when they are upset, many mums are using Facebook as a way of escaping when they are feeling overwhelmed.

This is certainly not a Facebook is evil post. There are lots of wonderful things about Facebook. However as I thought about this comment I realised that there were lots of times where I used Facebook to escape from my day at home with the kids. I guess as a self soothing method it is much better than turning to food, or alcohol, or drugs (although a nice glass of wine when hubby gets home can be helpful). I have noticed myself picking up my phone or ipad at times when I really should be interacting with the kids. I have clicked into Facebook when I know that there will be nothing new there because I checked it five minutes ago. I especially noticed it when I was doing study. As soon as I started to feel bored, frustrated or lost...click...back into Facebook.

It is partly habit, but I now know it is definitely a self soothing behaviour. Sometimes it even feels like I can't help myself. If I don't check Facebook I can't concentrate on anything else (it isn't that bad all the time). Those times generally occur when I am busy, stressed, sad, or overwhelmed.

Self soothing isn't a bad thing. We all need ways to calm ourselves down and have a bit of me time. It is only a concern when it impacts on other parts of your life. In my example, I often was on my phone at times when the kids needed me. 

Seeing my use of Facebook as a self soothing method has helped me to understand why I feel like I need to check it so much. I am now better able to acknowledge how I am feeling and redirecting myself into doing something else. It still takes work to notice I am doing it and redirect myself. Most importantly, I don't want to be remembered by my kids as a mum who always stared at her phone. I want to give them the love and attention they deserve.

Do you use Facebook as a self soother? 

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Diary of a SAHM {Book Review & Giveaway}

It's not everyday that someone I know writes a book and then asks me to review it. Jess from Essentially Jess has done just that. She is now a published author and today I am going to tell you how wonderful her book is. Not just because I like her, but because I really enjoyed this book.

diary of  a sham


Diary of a SAHM, is a book about Jess' life with her husband and young family. It is written in diary form so you can just imagine her sitting down at the computer after a hard day with the kids and writing each entry. Although, unlike the type of whiny diary I would keep, Jess' book is full of wonderful reflections about what God is doing in her life and the lives of her family.

I love this book because Jess is real and honest. There were so many moments as I was reading, where I thought, "I can so relate to that!". She hasn't written a book telling us how to be a better Christian or a better parent. She has written about the struggle to trust God and to walk in his ways in the midst of the journey of parenting. She tells it like it is (incredibly hard at times), but instead of negativity she shares how she leans on God through it all and seeks to train the hearts of her children to live for Him.

diary of a sham

One of my favourite parts of the book was Jess telling a story where, despite an epic effort to get the kids to church (walking three small children in the Darwin heat), she didn't get to hear a word of the sermon and had to deal with a baby who refused to sleep. Why would she bother to do this? To show her children that church was is priority in their family, and because she wants to live a life that reflects what she believes. I just loved it because sometimes it would be so much easier to skip church but how will our children learn to make meeting with other Christians a priority if their parents don't.  This story is one of many, where Jess shares a struggle and then reflects on what God is teaching her. 

This is the type of book I could (and will) read over and over again. Not because she gives us a "how to" of Christian parenting, but because it's like chatting with a friend who encourages us to see where God is working in our lives and the lives of our kids.

If you want to get your hands on a copy of her book the best option is to head to her website, Essentially Jess, and buy it now. I also have one copy of Diary of a SAHM available to giveaway to one lucky reader. Just complete the entry form below and tell me why you would like to win this book.

Of course I am linking up with Jess this week for IBOT.

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Friday, June 7, 2013

Do You Have a Celebrity Crush???

I have been writing about things that are way too serious lately so I thought it would be fun to write a post about my celebrity crushes.

I know lots of people have celebrity crushes but I generally don't find random celebrities attractive. When I was younger, lot of my friends thought Brad Pitt was gorgeous but I never really understood it. I think for me the idea that Brad Pitt was a celebrity was kind of a turn off. I guess it took more than just good looks to get my attention. My friends from when I was a teenager will tell you that my real life crushes were often not the most attractive of guys (if any ex boyfriends are reading this...that doesn't mean you). This was best demonstrated by my love of Brian from East 17.


I know!! but I was 14.

Other than Brian, my celebrity crushes were mostly characters in movies and T.V. shows. While the celebrity might be attractive, they didn't become attractive to me until I got to know their character. 

Now that I am married, I find it best not to think too much about attractive men that are not my husband. However (and hubby knows this), there are a few celebrities that still catch my eye. 

Here are my top celebrity crushes:

1. David Anders:
He played the role of Julian Sark in my favourite show Alias.  He is probably my number one crush , but only as Sark. When I realised that he was really an American it was over for me. However when he is Sark.....let's just say I have had to stop watching the show for a while and remember I had a husband :)
 
Here's a video in case you needed more:




2. Merrick Watts:



I had a very big crush on him for a while. He reminded me of a guy I used to have a real life crush on. 

3. Eddie Perfect & Matthew Le Nevez -from Offspring


 

As most of you know I am loving Offspring. Last year I had a crush on Eddie Perfect's character but this year I am thinking Patrick is a bit cute.


Anyway, before I get myself in any more trouble from my husband...... 

Do you have a celebrity crush? Who were you teenage celebrity crushes?



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Tuesday, June 4, 2013

HELP! I Need Advice.

I really need some help with making a decision. I should be able to make this decision on my own but for some reason I'm just not sure what I should do.

This decision needs a little bit of background. It all started because of a digital photo frame. This frame (pictured below) sits beside our T.V. and is mostly turned off. However in recent weeks my children have become fascinated with it. They love watching pictures of themselves as babies and love trying to guess which baby is in the picture.


The digital frame that sends subliminal messages

Since it has been switched on, it has been rolling through the photos while I sit and watch T.V. Little by little, this device is sending me messages. With each picture, the frame says "Too quick, they are  growing up too quick".

Every parent can relate to this. Our kids seem to be babies one minute, then toddlers the next (I'm sure it is worse for parents of teenagers). This thought isn't anything new, but there was something else that this thought stirred in me and it has to do with childcare.

My two eldest girls have been in childcare since the beginning of last year and it is wonderful. The centre we have chosen is lovely and the carers are wonderful. I only have good things to say about the centre. Currently only one of my children attends the centre. My eldest is at preschool and the baby is home with me. My middle girl, Claire attends two days a week.

As the photos rolled through, my heart said. "Why is Claire in childcare when you are at home?", "She is growing up so quick and you could be spending that time with her".


Growing up too quick

So here is my dilemma. Should I take Claire back to only one day a week?

My heart says "Yes!" spend as much time as possible with her. She is only this little for such a short time and I wonder if I will regret not taking the opportunity to have time with her. Although she seems to love childcare when she is there, she often says doesn't want to go. Her days are much longer than the preschool days, so when I do pick up/drop off I really feel someone is missing. I chose to have her in two days because of my study/this blog but now that baby is awake more I am often not using the days for these things. I also think it would be nice for her to have one on one with time with her younger sister. 

On the other hand, I worry that taking her back to one day will mean she misses out on the social skills and stimulation that childcare provides. I feel sad that she won't see her teachers as much. I worry that I am doing it for me, because I want to be with her more, rather than because it is good for her.

If I was working, it would be simple and I would not be concerned about her being in childcare. Since I am at home and can look after her myself,  I wonder if I should. Is it selfish of me to take up a place in childcare when another family could use it?

Oh! it is all so hard. 

Any wise words, advice or your own experience is much appreciated.

What should I do????




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Friday, May 31, 2013

You Are What You.....Watch/Read/Hear.

You have heard it said that you are what you eat, but I have been thinking recently about the impact of what I watch, read and hear. A couple of weeks ago, I shared with you the post Pretending everything is ok. It was at that time that I realised the importance of what I am allowing into my mind.


When I was going through what I am jokingly calling "my mid life crisis", my mind was consumed with thoughts of how  my life could be better. They mainly focused around being more attractive, being more successful, having a different life etc. These thoughts are not uncommon, but the amount and strength of them was becoming a problem.

Be careful what you see, hear and what you say.

I have been wondering where these type of thoughts come from. Why, when I have a great life, a happy marriage and wonderful kids was I so discontent? In the past few weeks I have made a very deliberate effort to turn away from the things that I was focusing on. In doing this, I have realised that I had been filling my mind with very unhelpful images, and messages.

Most of the things in themselves are not bad. One thing was watching make up tutorials on YouTube. Not one or two but lots (so many that my 4 year old now asks to watch them). I was constantly trying to make myself look younger, prettier, more attractive. There were also movies and T.V. shows that I would watch and imagine a different life. A life that didn't involve kids or a husband. In some ways that seemed appealing.

I'm not sure if others struggle with these things (maybe they don't even notice they do it). I think most of us wish we had the lives of celebrities, or the wealthy or those who seemingly have it more together than we do.  If our minds are constantly focusing on these things rather than the life we have been given, how will we ever be content.


I have realised that, for me it is a matter of making sure I am very careful about what's going into my mind. It means cutting back on make up tutorials, turning off T.V. shows that I know are not helpful, and not typing David Anders into Pinterest (ok that one isn't really a problem for me but he is my celebrity crush).

The most important thing I have found that helps is replacing the unhealthy stuff with good stuff. For me as a Christian it means reading the Bible and seeing what it has to say about the importance of family and my role as a wife and mum. I have also found that instead of listening to music at the gym, I listen to podcasts/talks about strengthening my marriage and family.

During my "mid life crisis" my mind was filled with so much discontentment. Just a few short weeks later I am seeing the wonderful (and completely undeserved) blessings I have in my life.  It takes work, but I am going to continue to be careful of what I watch, read and hear because it shapes who I am.




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Thursday, May 23, 2013

Apparently I Had Something to Say About the Budget

Last week I was interviewed by The Canberra Times regarding the budget. Of course this is because I follow politics so closely and my opinion is very important in Canberra. Ok that's a lie, I was actually interviewed a month ago about our experience with the NBN but that story didn't end up running.





When I got the call asking me if I would like to comment on the budget I kinda freaked out. I honestly have never taken too much notice of the budget and wasn't actually planning to watch when it was announced. I was even more scared as my hubby was not going to be at home so it was up to me to say something somewhat intelligent. I was even more freaked out when some of my facebook followers warned me not to speak to them at all.

Below is the interview. I think it came out ok. Not everything was entirely accurate some of that was my fault for not explaining properly and it must be super hard to turn what someone says into a story. 

I'm also not one to get fired up about these things. I actually think that our politicians do a pretty good job. Of course that is comparing them to leaders of other countries and the leaders that I have studied in my History courses in school and university. They do have their weak points and I am thankful that there are people who will make a stand for important issues.

From The Canberra Times on Wednesday 15th May 2013:


Meet the Berriman family of Harrison. Tim Berriman, 37, and his wife Lisa, 33. The couple have three children: Emily, 4, Claire, 2, and one-year-old Alicia.
Tim works full-time in his role as a Presbyterian minister, while Lisa cares for their children and is completing a masters in clinical psychology at the University of Canberra and writes a blog about her life.
Their household income is around $80,000.
As Treasurer Wayne Swan was preparing to deliver his pre-election budget address on Tuesday night, Ms Berriman was busy with her own domestic concerns. With her husband not yet home from work, she put the couple's daughters to bed and listened with interest as Mr Swan spoke about tertiary education, child care and changes to family tax arrangements.

Ms Berriman said previously announced cuts to university funding and student support totalling $2.3 billion were disappointing but she welcomed increases in Commonwealth-supported university places and $186 million for research.
''It's a shame they have to cut anything, particularly university funding, and the Treasurer spoke about wanting to have people to get the highly skilled jobs Australia needs so I think it should have been a last resort,'' she said.
''I think university study is really important for Canberra and for Australia, so that was something I listened to closely.''
The self-described ''mummy blogger'' welcomed $9.8 billion to be spent over six years for Australia's new school funding model, as well as $300 million for the child-care Early Years Quality Fund.
''Canberra already has very good preschool and child-care and I think everyone should have [it] and for it to be as helpful as it can be for early learning,'' she said.
''I think a lot of people will care about the education spending because it affects everyone in some way or another, and it seems like the government thinks it is very important now.''
Families such as the Berrimans will face a reduced time period to access family tax assistance and child-care funding, saving the government $562 million over five years.
The family received the $5000 baby bonus at the birth of their children, but Ms Berriman admitted it's axing from March 1, 2014, was sensible.
The cut will save $1.1 billion over five years.
''We got the baby bonus for all three of our children and while it was really generous at the time, the truth is we probably didn't really need it as much as other families might,'' she said. ''We used it for the setting-up costs of the nursery and things like that, but it wasn't like we would have gone without.''
Ms Berriman welcomed the centrepiece spending of $14.3 billion for DisabilityCare, the national disability insurance scheme, raised through an increase in the Medicare levy.
''I thought that was great because I have worked with people with disabilities and know it is pretty hard for some of them,'' she said.
''I am really glad to be able to contribute and I think a small raise in the Medicare levy is a good way to do it because I know it could be me or my family next year or in the future.''


The original story is here:



It was really interesting watching the announcement of the budget and I may even take more notice in the future.

Did you watch the budget announcement?



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