Way back in February I wrote this post on Staying Positive as we Prepared for Baby # 3. I had 5 weeks to go until Alicia was due and I was pondering what life would hold for our family. Well five months on, I thought I would give you an update on how we were coping with three children under four.
I remember saying I hoped Alicia would just fit in with our lives and I couldn't have been more right given she arrived while we were still at home (if you missed reading about her bathroom floor birth you can read about it on this link) and I was allowed to stay at home with my family after the birth. So life just went on as normal despite a new little person living in the house.
A few hours after she was born...just getting on with life
While feeding was a little difficult at the start, it improved quickly and she was feeding and settling well by two weeks. We did have a scary week when she developed a kidney infection at 14 days old and she spent a week in hospital on antibiotics. However when she returned home she went back into an fairly good routine and life returned to normal.
Has having three kids tipped me over the edge?? No, I still manage to look after the kids and myself (and have time for my hobbies and my blog). Is it harder? Of course! Life is so much busier. I used to have time to get all of my cleaning jobs done for the week, but now I get the basic stuff done but the tasks that are non essential (like cleaning the car out or cleaning grubby marks off the windows) are neglected. Days and weeks just get away from me and my to do list never has more than a couple of things marked off it per day. Do I care? Nope, I am loving it. I waste heaps of time just making my baby smile. It's great.
It helps that Alicia is a great sleeper both day and night, so tiredness is not really a problem. I have turned into a bit of a hibernator lately though. In the past I would take the girls out most days of the week, even if it was just to the park. Towards the end of my pregnancy I stayed home a lot more, but now I am home more days than I am out. It is just so cold here in Canberra and it is so hard dressing all three girls, doing hair, doing teeth, battling to get them into the car and trying to time all these things (and the outing) to occur between feeds. Alicia is also a pretty fussy feeder at the moment so I prefer to be at home to feed. I have just found it is easier to stay at home and to be honest I am enjoying it.
I am also finding the three kids thing easier than I thought because I really only have to look after them on my own for three days a week. My hubby is around Saturday to Monday (Sunday is a work day but since he is the minister of our church we get to go to work with him). On Thursdays the older two head off to childcare so I only have Alicia with me.
Another thing that has made my transition easier is accepting help. I often get people to hold Alicia while I tend to the girls (once it was a Minister -the political type who was visiting our local park to talk to mums at a group play session). If people see me struggling and offer to help I take it. I often wonder if people see me struggling and judge me for having too many kids, but mostly I don't care and just accept any help I can get.
So there you have it. I am surviving having three kids basically under four or almost under three (my eldest was three and six weeks when Ali was born). There was really nothing to fear and we are loving having these three beautiful girls. They are such a blessing to our life and we couldn't be happier.