With only just over two weeks until my due date I am becoming increasingly excited to find out whether this is a pink or blue baby. Yes, we are one of those rare couples who have chosen to wait until the birth of our baby to find out whether it is a boy or a girl.
We have always enjoyed the surprise of waiting until the very end of pregnancy to find out and we figured that this time should be no different. While I can totally understand why people want to find out early, and it was very tempting for us this time around, we have decided that not finding out is our family tradition and we wanted to keep it that way this time too.
The thing that I have been finding really strange this time around is the expectation that since we have two girls already that we are really hoping for a boy. I know of other friends who have been disappointed on finding out that number three makes three of the same gender, however this is not the case with everyone and not the case with us.
For us the idea of having another girl fills us with the joy of having another little person similar to the ones we already love and cherish. It is familiar, and we love the idea of these girls having another sister to play dollies with and share other girly things with.
|sooo much pink in this household|
The idea of having a boy is also wonderful as it would be something new and an experience that we would miss out on if we have a little girl. With a boy, we will get to experience trucks and trains and buy blue clothes and will be able to give our girls a brother to give them the male perspective on things as they grow up.
|I may have to learn all about trucks!|
As I have been thinking about this I can also acknowledge that with each will also come some slight disappointment. To have a boy will mean a change in the way we do things, possibly a more energetic little person in the house. And we won't be able to use the gorgeous little dresses etc that our girls have worn before. However to have a girl will mean we may never experience what it is like to raise a boy, to know the differences of having a boy and then a man in the house. There are things that we will miss out on if this baby pops out as a girl.
One of the really common questions we get is..." I know you might want a girl, but I bet your husband wants a boy. Every man wants a son." In some ways this is true, he would love to have a son to experience the father- son relationship. He would love to have a little person who he can share common interests with and raise to be a man. However he loves his little girls and they really are Daddy's girls. For him another girl is more than just a female child, it is another person who he will share a relationship with that will be different from the others, even if they are all girls.
I do have to admit that I often wonder whether I would have had the same attitude if I had been having the third boy. I love having little girls and maybe I would have felt I was missing out on something not having a girl. Of course I will never know now but I would like to think that I would have the same attitude as my husband does.
So as the due date approaches we look forward to discovering what our future holds and we will be super happy with our new little person whether they are a boy or a girl.
Were you hoping for a certain gender with any of your pregnancies?